The Hermit is your spiritual “Do Not Disturb” sign. Upright, this card is not about being antisocial and weird (though, bonus points if you are) — it is abou...
The Hermit is your spiritual “Do Not Disturb” sign. Upright, this card is not about being antisocial and weird (though, bonus points if you are) — it is about stepping back from the noise long enough to hear your own brain without twelve other people’s opinions echoing inside it. This is you closing the group chats, muting the drama, and going offline from everybody’s expectations so you can actually remember who the hell you are. The Hermit is deep self-reflection, zooming out, asking bigger questions and finally admitting that your intuition might know more than TikTok, your mum, and your last three exes combined. It is not loneliness — it is sacred alone time, chosen on purpose, so your soul can breathe without being reviewed like a social media post.
The Hermit reversed is isolation cosplaying as “I am just busy” and emotional avoidance dressed up as “I am working on myself.” It is ignoring messages, dodging hard conversations, disappearing when people get too close, and then crying that “no one understands me.” This is doom-scrolling at 2AM, living in your head rent-free, replaying old conversations instead of having new ones, and convincing yourself that everyone is disappointing when actually… you have not given anyone a proper chance. It drags your ghosting habit, your tendency to overthink instead of speak, and your refusal to ask for support because you don’t want to look “weak.” Newsflash: hiding isn’t healing — it is just hiding with Wi-Fi.
In love, The Hermit upright is the phase where you stop asking, “Do they like me?” and start asking, “Do I even like who I become with them?” It is pulling back slightly not to punish anyone, but to reconnect with yourself and your needs. This card favours therapy, journaling, talking honestly with your partner, and actually sitting with your patterns instead of blaming Mercury every time you self-sabotage. In an existing relationship, it can mean taking quiet time together, deep talks that change the game, or working through issues in a mature, low-drama way. If you are single, The Hermit upright is the glow-up where you stop chasing bare minimum energy and decide you would rather be peacefully alone than romantically stressed.
Reversed, The Hermit in love is emotional ghost mode: shutting down, disappearing, leaving messages on read for three business days, and calling it “I just need space” when really you are avoiding intimacy like it is a tax audit. It can point to fear of vulnerability, partners who close off instead of talking, or relationships where you both live like roommates with occasional touching. If you are single, this card warns that your standards might be high but your walls are higher. You say you want love, but you treat every potential connection like a threat to your independence. Hiding your entire heart and then complaining that “no one sees the real me” is exactly the circus Hermit reversed is roasting.
Career-wise, The Hermit upright is deep focus, research, study and going into “leave me alone, I am building something” mode. It is excellent for planning, strategy, learning, upskilling and quietly working on a project that actually matters to you. This card supports jobs where you need concentration and expertise — writing, analytics, spiritual work, coding, planning, anything that requires a brain, not just attendance. It also suggests stepping back from workplace drama and politics, choosing to be the wise one who does not get dragged into every petty storm. You are allowed to be the calm person who actually knows what they are doing.
Reversed, The Hermit at work is checked-out energy. You are technically employed but spiritually gone. It can show disengagement, zoning out in meetings, avoiding collaboration, or insisting “I work better alone” when really you are just allergic to feedback. It also calls out hiding behind “I am thinking about it” forever instead of finishing the thing. If you find yourself resenting everyone at work while refusing to communicate or change anything, The Hermit reversed is holding a mirror and some resignation forms.
Financially, The Hermit upright is the quiet money nerd who wins in the long run. This card supports reviewing your budget, checking your accounts, planning for the future, researching options and seeking real wisdom — from books, mentors or professionals, not random cousins with “crypto tips.” It is about learning from past financial mistakes without roasting yourself for them. You do not need to announce your plans to the world; you just need to sit down with the numbers and act like the adult you secretly are.
Reversed, this card screams, “Stop ignoring your bank account like it’s a horror movie.” It is financial avoidance: not checking your balance, not opening bills, hoping debt magically disappears, and calling it “I’m trusting the universe” when really you are just scared. It also highlights money shame — feeling so embarrassed about past choices that you refuse to look at them, which of course makes everything worse. The Hermit reversed says: one honest look at your finances will hurt less than the constant dread of never looking at them at all.
In friendship, The Hermit upright is healthy space. It is knowing when you need a quiet night alone, when you need a deep one-on-one conversation, and when you need to step back from the crowd to reconnect with yourself. The real ones will not take it personally — they will save you a seat for when you come back. This card favours quality over quantity: fewer people, deeper bonds, more meaningful exchanges, less shouting into a group chat that never listens. It is also the “wise friend” energy — you may be the one others come to for grounded advice because you actually think before you speak.
Reversed, The Hermit in friendships is you vanishing for months then acting surprised that the group moved on without you. It can show withdrawing so hard that people assume you do not like them, or choosing isolation out of pride, fear or “I don’t want to bother anyone.” It also drags friendships where everyone is low-key avoidant: nobody texts first, nobody admits they miss each other, and the whole group slowly dies from emotional ghosting. If you feel lonely but ignore every invite, Hermit reversed is like: babes, that math ain’t mathing.
The Hermit upright teaches introspection, solitude, inner wisdom and the power of stepping back to see the bigger pattern. It is the elder on the mountain, the therapist’s couch, the journal page, the quiet night alone where you finally admit the truth to yourself. Reversed, it exposes avoidance disguised as healing, isolation disguised as independence, and overthinking disguised as “shadow work.” When this card appears, ask: “Am I giving myself healthy space to grow… or am I hiding because I am scared of being seen while I do it?”. Your answer will say everything.
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